Meditating v1 - Relationships

can't sleep yet.. and as usual..
i'm in a reflective mood..
thinking about "relationships"...
over analyzing...

a relationship (in the context of love - whether family, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, etc.) is indeed very complex...

it takes an endless effort and countless factors to keep any relationship "alive"...
otherwise, it will slowly wither and die...

putting effort and doing one's part to nurture the relationship is a choice...
it is a decision that we must make not once but on a daily basis...
it is a commitment that we must value and renew everyday...

if we feel that the relationship is becoming weak, it must be our responsibility to nourish it with love in different forms...

and we must remember that the complexity of a relationship is brought about by the individual complexity of the people involved in it...
therefore, efforts must not come from one party only but from everybody...

if one has decided to sever from the relationship...
then it will be like a complex machine with a missing part...
no matter how polished the other parts are, the machine will still definitely not work...

and most importantly, a relationship must be guided by the Author of Love... God.

Peace.Love.Happiness.




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Wedding and Marriage

A lot of celeb couples have been engaged this year. Their proposals have caused love to apparently be more popular than it already is. For someone at my age (and being in a very long committed relationship), I kind of feel the pressure of joining the pool. Though I'm not the one to ask, I feel like I want him to ask me already (although we already talked about it) and even if I know I still have tons of things that I wanna do before I get married.

These past few months, I've been thinking a lot about wedding preparations. I've been saving images for wedding essentials like gown designs, themed decors, etc. I keep on daydreaming about that day when I can get to wear my dream wedding gown and look like a queen in white. These daydreams made me feel frustrated as the days went by. Because I think about it too much, anxiety ruled over me. I worry that my dream wedding day won't come. I started having negative thoughts about my partner. Weeks passed by and my obsession with weddings grew as well as my frustrations until I came to a point where I don't understand myself anymore - I don't know what I want anymore - do I want to get married now? What about my priorities?

After trying hard to sort things out, I came to a realization - I want to be engaged, plan my wedding, make my dream wedding happen, BUT I don't want to get married yet.

Yes, confusing right? It took time before I figured that out. Just like other women out there (perhaps), I am excited about the thought of wearing that diamond ring in my finger, saying yes to my man, the cheers from our families and friends, the grandeur of a dream wedding day but I never thought of being married AFTER the wedding day. This realization helped me focus on my goals and priorities. Surely, getting married is part of the list but I know for sure that I don't want it for now. I must always remember (and all women out there as well) that the wedding day is just an icing on top of the cake, it's just the sauce on the spaghetti, creamer on the coffee - in short, wedding is not equivalent to marriage. Being excited for your wedding day does not mean that you are ready to get married.

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Peace.Love.Happiness.